Showing posts with label simplify. Show all posts
Showing posts with label simplify. Show all posts

Tuesday, 16 June 2020

Gratitude Diairy


COVID-19 caught all of us with our pants down. And for many - if not most, it is dictating that we go inside to reflect on that which is. It has also, as Barry Malone said: “not been an equalizer. It has been a magnifier of inequality and injustice that permeates every aspect of society allowing some to take refuge behind privileges and money whilst those less fortunate, are left to struggle.”

Much has been written about the anxiety caused by the lockdown and how to overcome the sense of powerlessness and despair. Many suggest that one focusses on what you have right within every moment, rather than fussing over what you don’t have. Expressing gratitude has indeed been shown as having a calming effect on the mind and the emotions.

I was once told by my exco (God and the angels) to “just be”. On inquiry as to the precise meaning, this was the reply: ‘to be, is to do absolutely nothing (but being grateful and visualize) in order to achieve absolutely everything’’. 

But here’s the thing. Is a simple emotionless expression of gratitude enough?

Visualization is an amazing technique for manifesting that which one desires in life. In fact, the Essenes - authors of the Dead Sea Scrolls and who, 2000BC lived near the Dead Sea at a place called Qumran, was adamant that any visualization will only yield results when one can actually vividly smell, taste, feel, hear the elements within your visualization or prayer.

So visualization should then in fact be a total immersive emotional/physical experience even though one would be quite still and stationary. Does this make sense?

It does. One has to experience – take ownership of the content of your visualization as if it already is – right here right now. The emotion which accompanies successful achievement is indeed a truly deep and authentic experience as I am sure you can relate to. You see, to think about something is one thing. To actually passionately experience it in your mind, is activating that thought or desire…

So this morning as I woke and expressed gratitude for a new day – I was suddenly struck by the sound of that expression in my mind. It was so - casual and meaningless – I was stunned!

If it sounded meaningless, it is meaningless. I dug into the subconscious to extract reminders of experiences that rendered authentic emotions of gratitude (and there are many), and then I again expressed gratitude. This time it felt different – my soul responded.

Now I am not trying to simplify the challenges relating to stress and anxiety. To practice gratitude is not always that easy. Tell someone who hasn’t eaten for days, to be grateful – or a parent who has been starving themselves in order to feed their children – it is not that easy and I don’t have all the answers either.

Point is if one expresses gratitude and your soul do not respond to this expression, if you don’t feel that gratitude – if you don’t feel the intention and attention – you have not gone inside - and then, in my opinion, the expression is pretty much meaningless.

Lockdown dictates a redirection of our focus. If we make gratitude part and parcel of that new focus and we share within our communities, the gifts may well surprise us all.

 

 

Tuesday, 4 July 2017

Humility


“Humility is limiting oneself to an appropriate amount of space whilst leaving space for others. This space can be physical, emotional, verbal, or even metaphorical.”

This is a truly serious statement which begs for contemplation. In our modern meme world where everyone is out to claim, and even go to war for their space, one needs to meditate on how this is manifested in your immediate environment.

Commercial enterprises refer to and are constantly on about its environmental footprint. Have you thought about your personal footprint?  I do – often …

Let’s just skip the philosophical elements of the topic for a moment and ground everyone’s immediate thoughts with some practicalities.

Some examples of claiming space:

When you “double park” your car/bakkie half/half over two parking bays
Groceries shopping – one half of your trolley takes up half of the isle while you occupy the rest of the space next to it
Wrenching open and shutting doors/drawers instead of opening and closing it
Making a mess of your immediate (office/room) space and then expecting someone else to clean up
Driving across white lines to pass where you should not or, because you are on your darn cell phone and not paying attention
Sitting at a traffic light with your sound system loud enough to entertain a full Loftus stadium
Having an office all to yourself while it can in fact comfortably accommodate 5 more people
And one that will tip the apple cart (for the best). There is a school of thought  suggesting that the owner/MD/CEO of any company not earn more than 7x that of the lowest paid employee

I think you get the picture. The list is absolutely endless and we are all guilty of claiming more than what is appropriate.

Are you thinking about how you claim your space? I am …

How about the space you claim by verbally abusing people – employees, family and the rest?

Is your claim legitimate? Sometimes it may well be, but if you carefully and with intention investigates this question; more often than not your claim may actually be illegitimate.

A friend of mine always says: “never argue, quarrel or fight”. If the situation requires you to state your point or position, do it with dignity and respect. Everybody is entitled to their opinion, but if you insist yours to be the one and only way – you are in trouble – your claim to this space, may be invalid and driven by fear.

Life is not as complicated as we make it out to be. Simplify and limit your occupation of space to what is appropriate and legitimate.

“Being humble doesn’t mean being a nobody - it just means being no more of a somebody than you ought to be” – A Morinis

Nuff said …

© Matthys Ferreira